Powered by Mom Talks about Building Confidence In Teens
As the parent of a 13 year old daughter, I know all too well about the dangers of allowing your teen’s confidence to sink. Teenagers are great at projecting invincibility, but in reality, they are just as nervous and scared as we were during our teen years. Schools have become a jungle of bullying and rude commentary and with the advent of social media, there is no guarantee that this behavior will stop once the teen heads home for the day.
Raising teenagers has never been more challenging. Building confidence in teens is one way that they can deal with the many pressures that they face from peers, bullies and the pressures they put on themselves. It can never be assumed that “kids will be kids”. The things that happen to use when we are teens tend to stick with us for a very long time. That’s why providing the foundation for your teen to stay true to herself (or himself) is so important. We all remember being told to just be ourselves. While this advice is sometimes considered cliché , being yourself is the best way to avoid bullying and peer pressure.
Teens and peer pressure seemingly go hand in hand. It is especially difficult for a teen girl. She may feel a great deal of pressure to go to parties, consume drugs and/or alcohol or become intimate before she is ready. By teaching her to have a strong level of self-confidence and always remain true to her beliefs, you can send her out into the world knowing that she has a strong moral center.
In this day and age, where we are constantly connected to one another, talking to them about being responsible on social media, it’s not somewhere they should put out all their personal information.Kids are getting bullied on social media so we need to teach our children to be careful about what they put out there and to take any inappropriate behaviour towards them on social media seriously. As parents we need to be aware of what are kids are doing on social media and to help them be responsible when they are on it. Also what we can do as parents and even any other adults in their life is to just be there for them. Help build their confidence not tear it down, listen to them when they need someone to listen, not judge them.
As a teen, the smallest of issues can seem like major dramas. Allowing your teen daughter to get swept up in the latest “he said, she said” soap opera on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram is not good for her long term development. We can encourage them to not get caught up in that drama, better yet encourage them to not be involved in it. If the drama becomes bullying then we as parents need to help our children no matter how old they are to help deal with those bullies.
While not all of us may want to do things the way the one dad called out his daughter’s bullies on a YouTube video I still applaud this dad as he did not let his daughter suffer alone, he did something and he knew what was going on (you can see that video HERE if interested if you haven’t already) . He was not about to her confidence and self-esteem go down the toilet because of others. For me the point is we need to either help our teens or support them when they need that help. Building confidence in teens may take time, lots of love and always be there to support them and listen to them.
Raising teenagers in modern society has the ability to drive a parent like myself crazy, if you allow it to. Spending time with your teen and instilling a strong sense of self in them gives them the tools they need to rise above all of the petty bickering and infighting that plagues those teen years. Building confidence in teens is our duty as parents and helps to make the world a better place.