As many of you know and for those who are new to Powered by Mom I have one daughter Sian. She turns 11 this week so as you can imagine this coming weekend with her birthday party of 5 girls attending it’s going to be crazy. This week we finally arranged the one activity outside of school that our daughter will be doing. She’s going to be doing vocal lessons something we‘ve thought about for years but this is the first year she has wanted to do them. A budding singing sensation, maybe but it’s more about the fun ad stimulating creativity. Last year she had girl guides, the year before girl guides, dance and one other activity I can’t for the life of me remember. With the exception of this year all other years I worked full time outside the home and it was a huge challenge and exhausting I found to get her to all those activities. Keep in mind I’m not talking about activities that are not concurrent if they occur in different seasons that’s also different. I’m talking about examples like Jane has ballet Tues & Thurs, gymnastics Wed & piano on Fridays that kind of thing and believe me I know of children who have that many activities 4-5 days/week sometimes not counting activities that have practices and games.
Even with one activity such as Girl Guides last year between Sian’s homework and well life it was still a challenge for her to participate all of the time in Girl Guides. So it amazes me these parents who have their children in 3 or more activities and many I know have more than one child. My hat is off to all of you as I don’t know how you manage it but it does make me wonder how many after school activities can one child be in? How many is too many? Each child is unique of course and as such I’m sure can handle a different amount of activities and the type of activities but is it just me who gets exhausted watching those kids who have 3, 4 sometimes more activities all in the same time frame? How do those parents manage it, some I know the moms are stay at home but that doesn’t mean they’re not busy. I also marvel at the parents whose kids not only are involved in that many activities and they have more than one child, makes me feel like a slacker lol.
I know for my daughter that 2 activities in the same week are more than enough for her and perhaps because her elementary school unlike the one I went to they don’t have soccer, baseball and volleyball teams etc.. In fact none of the elementary (K-7) schools in our district do so the kids do these all after school and on the weekends. When I went to school (no I didn’t walk 5 miles in the snow :)) but we did have those school teams in elementary school and I participated in them and the only activities I did that wasn’t a school one was between dance and playing the flute. My dad was a musician so playing an instrument was a given.
So I ponder am I a slacker parent or is one after school activity enough? What do you think and what do you think is too much? I would love, love to hear from others please feel free to comment below.