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I didn’t aspire to become a mother, but life had other plans for me. Early on, I knew I would be a pharmacist, just like my grandfather. In the small town my family hails from, I’d spend my childhood weekends sitting at the fountain counter, drinking a vanilla cola and watch my grandpa interact with his customers. They all smiled and talked about how my grandpa helped them with their medical conditions. I knew then I wanted to help others in the same way.
In pharmaceutical school, I met a wonderful man. Frank was another aspiring pharmacist, kind hearted and smart as a whip. We dated for two years before he popped the question. Soon after our wedding, I discovered I was pregnant…with twins. Most pregnant women feel an overwhelming sense of happiness knowing a little bundle of joy is growing within them. I, however, experienced a bittersweet awakening.
Sure, I wanted these babies, but I also wanted to pursue my dream of becoming a pharmacist. In my third trimester, I had no choice but to drop my classes. A couple months later, Amber and William were born.
After college, Frank worked to pay the bills while I stayed at home with our young ones. My post-partum depression was further amplified by my desire to follow in my grandfather’s footsteps. I knew I was a good mommy, tending to my infant’s needs with many restless nights. This didn’t stop me from the burning need to finish what I had started.
Having a daughter I found it extremely important to show her that it were possible. I needed her to know that she didn’t have to just be mother. She could have her dreams and they could be whatever she wanted. We tend to model those we watch as children, I wanted her to see me achieve my dreams. I also wanted my son to understand that women are much more than caregivers. We are independent, and have our own goals outside of the family.
I often fantasized about being Super Mom, juggling my college career with the needs of two young children. But Frank worked long hours. I knew if I were to make my dreams a reality, I’d have to enlist the help of others. My extended family all had families of their own and weren’t available to help. I researched my options online and discovered a network of babysitters and nannies fully capable.
After locating a few suitable professionals, I conducted interviews, introduced them to my kids, and selected a fantastic woman with a great demeanor. Soon, I found I had more time than I could ever possibly know what to do with. I re-enrolled in my studies and learned more about medicine. Having the nanny helped me to find the perfect balance.
The nanny offered peace of mind in the rearing of my children so I could focus on my studies and take care of our home while Frank worked day in and day out. I called the plumber when the bathroom sink wouldn’t drain. The tech guy paid a visit to fix our downed internet connection. Terminix pest control sent out a worker to spray around the base of our home as a preventive measure. After spending all my time consumed with raising twins, I found myself getting things done after finding a caretaker to help out. And all the while, I prepped myself for graduation.
My kids are now teenagers with very different personalities. They’re always on the go, constantly checking in with me and offering love in the way teens do. Amber dreams of following in her parents footsteps and pursuing a career in pharmaceuticals. William, well he has a girlfriend and she has dreams. Right now I think he is just interested in her. I look at my family and my career and know the success I’ve achieved. I have successfully been wife, mother, mentor and professional.
How do you multi-talented moms accomplish your dreams?