Having the “period” talk can be a positive experience for you both
Make the “period talk” a bonding experience
I remember my adolescent years quite vividly. They were some of the best years of my life but also some of the most difficult. We forge some of our tightest friendships as young teens and carve out some of our most memorable memories that we’ll end up cherishing for years to come. That being said, there are also memories that will haunt us and embarrass us for just as long. Puberty is at the root of some of these moments and I certainly don’t recall that period of my life fondly. The blemishes, hormones and awkward school pictures made me shudder in the past, but now I can laugh them off, not so easy to do though when you’re a teenager. . Now that I’m a mom of a 14 year old my own experiences are coming back to me, and I’d like to make this period in my daughter’s life a different kind of memory than what I had. It can for her be a positive coming of age experience, or at least one not filled of trepidation.
I remember all too well the awkwardness of getting my period and trying to have an open talk with my own mother, who until that point hadn’t talked to me at all about getting my period. I think she didn’t know how to broach the subject. Now that my own daughter is at an age where her period is on the horizon, I knew that it was my turn to have a discussion with her and I didn’t want to wait until she came to me. As I sat down and started contemplating how I would approach the subject with my daughter, it dawned on me that it didn’t have to be as much of an embarrassing event as I remembered it being or have heard it be from other mom’s going through the same situation. If I approached her in a gentle and understanding manner as someone who had once faced the same situation, there was no reason why our talk couldn’t be lucrative for the both of us.
The first thing I vowed to do is be completely honest and open with my daughter. So many times I’ve heard humorous stories from other mom’s about stretching the truth or bumbling their way through and giving inaccurate information, that I knew I wanted to take a different approach. I wanted to center my talk about the honest facts, so, I armed myself with as research as I could get my hands on. Of course, being a woman I knew my fair share but in order to give my daughter all of the facts and make sure they were correct, I did my homework before settling down to engage in straight talk about the subject with my daughter.
Another thing that I wanted to stress to my daughter was the importance of feeling like she could ask me anything. As I recalled my own talk with my mother, I remember quite vividly the embarrassment I felt and how I was not comfortable with my own body to ask the questions that were burning in my mind. As a parent I want my daughter to know that no matter what she’s going through, especially puberty, I’ll always be willing to answer her questions and be there as a pillar of support when she most needs it. Especially when it comes to her period, I want to ensure that I let her know first and foremost that no question is a dumb question, and that knowledge through questioning is a source of power.
Highlighting products that I think would be helpful was also on my agenda for our open talk about periods. After so many years of using feminine hygiene products myself, I knew the importance of finding products that work for your specific needs. Always pads have been on my list of must-haves during my period, because they are comfortable, thin, yet provided the protection I needed. I also liked that they gave me choices, we’re all unique and Always pads recognizes that has has a variety of products for all a young girl’s needs. This is why I made plans to highlight Always products specifically for my daughter so that she might be able to test them for herself along with any other products that might be useful to her during her monthly period.
These Always Radiant Infinity Pads for teens are a great choice.
I know so many women who either didn’t have a conversation with their mother about their periods, and others who said it was awkward and they walked away without the answers they sought. After my own awkward experience, I knew I wanted this to be difference with my own daughter. It didn’t have to be traumatic or scary, this much I knew after becoming better acquainted with my body and dealing with a period directly for so many years now. My goal when having our open talk about periods was to ensure that my daughter with armed with the appropriate knowledge but also that it was done in a comforting and comfortable manner so that the experience was as delicate for her as possible given the subject matter.
I love that there is so much information out there for teens and their parents so that such conversations can be a positive experience. I like utilizing such things as videos like the one below, where you can give your teen the link and after having an open discussion they can go off and watch the video in privacy.
Period talks don’t have to be scary, in fact, they can be easy and a great bonding experience!