Powered by Mom Blog talks about surviving the teen years
This year marks a milestone in my family, my daughter turns 13 in September and starts high school as well. I’m not sure about surviving the teen years!. My daughter is a sweet girl but here and there the moodiness of a teenager emerges. Physically she’s not hit the hormonal change, she’s quite small for her age and is still a “girl” but that teenager head is rearing it’s ugly head. Okay maybe I’m exaggerating a little bit or maybe I’m not, as I start to think about what I was like as a teenager sometimes and I shudder. The memories of my mom saying one day when you have a daughter you will understand, oh boy!
Yes mom even though you’re no longer with us I know you see that I get it now and what I put you through. I can already see that my soon to be teen must not think I’m all that smart or perhaps that she’s smarter or sneakier. Every time I “catch” her doing something she knows she shouldn’t do I remind her that I’ve been there, done that and know all the tricks. Now don’t get me wrong we’re not talking big here, yet and I want to keep it that way. I want us to be open, have trust and that I’m here for her if she needs help BUT break that trust there are consequences. I can tell already surviving the teen years is going to be a challenge!
I think back and really wonder now what the heck was I thinking as a teenager, boy I was just dumb sometimes and I like to think that overall I wasn’t exactly a silly kid who couldn’t think for herself but the only way to explain it was I was a teenager. I think that the values my parents taught me and the fear of doing something really stupid where I could get into trouble was there overall as I didn’t do drugs, I didn’t even drink as I couldn’t stand the taste of alcohol then (noticed I say then as I like my red wine now), I didn’t steal etc.. you get the picture.
So I’m trying to remember on those days where I get the moody teenager the one who sometimes tries to pull the wool over our eyes on what I consider minor things that yes I did those stupid things too. I learned from them though and she has to learn from them and as I’ve said there are consequences. We can just do the best we can do but I think what matters is that we can and that we always try, we know where our children are and who they’re hanging with and hope that the values we try to instill in them stick.
I don’t know if I’m ready for the teen years, I’m quite certain my husband isn’t especially with a daughter but we will try, try and try and will survive!
Have you gone through the teen years with a child? Tell us how did you survive it? Or what advice can you offer from your teen years that worked on you? Who is going through this now and is hopefully surviving the teen years so far? 🙂